I recently received an email from a reader who was concerned that he wasn’t able to have an orgasm at the same time as his partner. Frustration was the primary theme in the email. And we all know what frustration during sex can do for orgasm – certainly not create the fireworks we see in this orgasm… Read More

One of the most sought after outcomes in romantic relationships is satisfaction. Sexual satisfaction, relationship satisfaction, overall satisfaction…it is all desired. So how do we boost our chances of being sexually and relationally satisfied? Since the majority of the research I do involves figuring out ways to maintain or promote couple’s well-being, a lot of… Read More

In our survey on sexual adventurousness of 3100 people (1731 men and 1369 women), we found that women engaged in significantly more sexually adventurous behaviors than men. I thought this was a really interesting finding considering how much women are constructed to be the member of a heterosexual couple with lower sexual desire, and constructed to be less sexual… Read More

So much sex advice out there revolves around communicating with your partner. What many people don’t realize is that there are different types of communication. There is non-verbal communication, where you can tell what your partner is feeling just by catching a glimpse of her facial expression from across the room. There is verbal communication,… Read More

You’ve been with your partner almost two years, so the novelty of each other has likely worn off a little bit, and you likely feel really comfortable with one another. There is research that indicates the two-year mark is right around the time where your love for your partner turns from passionate to compassionate. That… Read More

When you feel inexperienced, concern about your partner’s prior experience is natural. Actually, this feeling tends to begin during our early sexual experiences. Remember when you were an adolescent and you experienced your first make-out session (or even first kiss)? You were anxious, you were scared, but everything turned out OK and you learned from… Read More

First things first, no one gives you an orgasm. You havean orgasm. Although it might seem like a gift in its culmination of erotic pleasure, it’s yours. So your boyfriend should try to get that idea out of his head, pronto. A lot of men (and some women) see the orgasm as a stamp of approval that you’ve enjoyed yourself,… Read More

You’ve considered all of your options and have made the decision to get an abortion. Maybe you aren’t ready to become a parent (financially, emotionally, etc.), perhaps you’re a survivor of rape or incest, or maybe you already have all the children you can handle. So, what now? Now that you’ve made up your mind,… Read More

Is a threesome in your future? Whether with your lover, a fling, or your life partner, the fantasy of a ménage à trios has crossed the mind of many at one point or another. Not everyone is open to it, but you’ll be happy to know that many (men and women) have fantasized about it…. Read More

Is there an 800-pound gorilla in your bedroom? There might be, if you and your partner can’t agree on sex. As a researcher at Indiana University Bloomington’s Center for Sexual Health Promotion, I’m familiar with all the ways couples can differ in their sexual needs. One of the biggest mismatches? Your sex drives. Sure, we’ve… Read More